Ridges

by chasemradio #Tryharder, What's your story?

“He’s a nice guy”. “She’s cute”. “He has a good job”. “She has a good heart”. Almost always, all of these phrases are the kiss of death when it comes to dating. Eventually, after you get older and some dating standards change, these qualities move up in importance when looking for a mate; but initially these phrases will cause you to have many free Friday and Saturday nights. I know from experience! When I stopped always trying to be a “nice guy”- I became a “serial dater”. What flipped the switch? I developed ridges! What commercials do you remember most? The ones that are different. The ones that stand out. They are funny or provocative in some way. They connect […]

Jury Duty (My time as Pauly Shore)

by chasemradio #Tryharder, What's your story?

There are moments in your life when you want your name or number called. When the coach needs someone to take the potential game winning shot or when you are randomly selected to win something; those are the times in your life when you want to be called upon. You want to be noticed. You want the attention. You want to be the chosen one!   Then, there’s jury duty.   That’s where I am at today and hopefully only today. I’m sitting in a room with 400-500 people, all waiting to not be selected for this “honor” of serving their community. As I scan the room and the people around me, I don’t see anyone that resembles Pauly Shore. […]

Need some lube?

by chasemradio #Tryharder, What's your story?

When mechanical parts work together they are usually separated by a small amount of oil or lubricant to prevent them from breaking down. When we are going through a difficult time and the friction of life takes its toll on us, we often feel the need for some sort of buffer between the grinding of the plates.   We need lubricant.   Time is the thing that lubricates us from one tough moment to the next. Without it, much like the flaking of metal chards in an engine, we can become scarred and our tolerance, mindset, beliefs and sensitivity can erode; causing us to change.   To say that I am the same person I was 5 years ago would […]

Why you should fire people on the first floor

by chasemradio #Tryharder, What's your story?

More than 15 years ago I was handed the keys to my very first radio station as a program director. I had been in radio for a bit, and was the #2 guy in the programming hierarchy for a few years, but this was the first time I got to be the boss. The person responsible for every aspect of the long term and short term planning of the radio station. Every sound that came out of the speakers fell upon my shoulders and it was hard not to be a bit giddy at the possibilities to come! Yes, this is cooler than creating your own playlist with an app on your phone!   Prior to this promotion I had […]

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Are you sitting down?

by chasemradio #Tryharder, Featured Post, What's your story?

Are you sitting down? I started this blog 8 months ago and then put it down and moved on to other blog topics. It’s been in the back of my brain for a while now and I just couldn’t seem to cobble the words together to make my point. This offering has a lot of pain attached to it and perhaps I just wasn’t in the proper mindset at the time to do it justice or had the right emotions in the tank to get all the words and feelings out all in one sitting. I don’t usually start and stop a chapter, as most of my stuff is “stream of consciousness” style and I start and finish a topic […]

Don’t hold your breath

by chasemradio #Tryharder, What's your story?

Real talk here. We’ve all done it. We have all waited, somewhat patiently, for the karma train to roll in and hit someone. We place a deserving or undeserving target onto someone else’s back and hope that the balance of the world finally catches up to that person. To say that you haven’t ever done this would be a lie, because none of us are saints and we have all been wronged by someone. Relationship karma is probably the most common when it comes to people wanting to see it through. He broke your heart, he cheated on you, she hooked up with the football team while you were dating. You want redemption for your tears, heartache and embarrassment. You […]

#Adulting #Parenting

by chasemradio #Tryharder, What's your story?

A while back a friend of mine, who just got married at 30 but did not have children, asked me a series of interesting questions about fatherhood. She just shot them at me in rapid fire fashion and I answered them as best and as honest as I could. “Do you ever regret having kids”? It’s an honest and fair question from someone who has never had children. There is a curiosity, with people who don’t have kids, as to how much you are potentially missing out on in life when you choose to spend your weekends at jump castle birthday parties or t-ball games and not vacationing with friends or going to parties with other non-children having couples. It’s […]

Why I can’t have nice things!

by chasemradio #Tryharder, What's your story?

Every year, for my birthday, my father in law sends me cash in a card. This is what grandparents do for grandkids and this is what my father in law does for me. I guess I prefer he send me money opposed to some odd gift or cologne that I would never wear. He usually waits till Christmas to send those things.   This year, he sent me $100. Where $20 would have been fine and often my gift in the past, he stepped up this year and gifted large! Such a generous gift from the grandfather of my children and a man that I have grown to love and become good friends with over the 18 years we have […]

Self-help for Dummies

by chasemradio #Tryharder, Featured Post, What's your story?

Whenever I feel like I need a shot in that arm, albeit a need for a boost of confidence, knowledge, or just a reminder or refresher on something I’m struggling with, I buy a book.     Most of the books I read are based in betterment. “How to be a better…” (Fill in the blank) kind of stuff. I don’t always read the book all the way through and many of the books I just pull out whatever I need at the moment from the guidance provided in the pages and apply it to the situation.  I do also enjoy cookbooks because they provide guidance and ingredients.  I don’t love novels or books that don’t provide my brain knowledge. […]

Why nobody calls you Pee Pee Pants anymore.

by chasemradio #Tryharder, Pull The Trigger, What's your story?

The world has a short term memory.   If you have ever been in a situation where you just can’t shuck a perception or you are guilty of doing something memorable, for all the wrong reasons, and you just can’t change their opinion of you? Just wait. The world has a short term memory and an incredible case of ADD. No matter how hard we try in life to do the right thing, be the best person and try not to screw up-it happens. Like a bad nickname that attaches itself to you in college or the time you accidentally farted in a room full of people, louder than you thought it was going to come out, you get attached […]