I always preach the importance of being memorable.
I spend a good bit of time calculating ways of making
sure that I "win" most of my first impressions. I assure you this is
not something driven by ego or competition. By "winning", I want to
make sure I take away knowledge from the conversation and I want to ensure that
they remember me or things about me. Good things. First impressions are important in business
and in the general establishing of healthy relationships. Picking up takeaways
in conversations not only help your relationship with that person, but also
helps in future conversations with similar subject matter. (I've never ran a
marathon, but I can talk about it because I know someone that has).
A few weeks ago I was at a radio industry event. I got to
reconnect with a few people that I had not seen in a while and I also got the
opportunity to meet others that I have never met. I don't traditionally hand
out business cards. I always forget to load my wallet with them, but in all
honesty, I don't really like the slightly pretentious act of the exchange. We
are in a world of advanced technology and it's easier to pull someone up on
social media than it is to remember to hang onto a piece of thick paper. I take
cards more than I pass them out and within 24 hours, that person will almost
always get an email from me. Unlike dating and waiting the mandatory 2 days
before calling a girl, I immediately connect with the other person. In business
and networking, (they go hand in hand) immediacy is important.
reconnect with a few people that I had not seen in a while and I also got the
opportunity to meet others that I have never met. I don't traditionally hand
out business cards. I always forget to load my wallet with them, but in all
honesty, I don't really like the slightly pretentious act of the exchange. We
are in a world of advanced technology and it's easier to pull someone up on
social media than it is to remember to hang onto a piece of thick paper. I take
cards more than I pass them out and within 24 hours, that person will almost
always get an email from me. Unlike dating and waiting the mandatory 2 days
before calling a girl, I immediately connect with the other person. In business
and networking, (they go hand in hand) immediacy is important.
At this event, I ran into a woman that I had only met
once and it was about 15 years ago. We were introduced by a mutual friend and
she and I then sparked up a great conversation with subjects changing every 3
minutes. (I was drinking gin and tonic, so that probably assisted in the flow
of random topics). She then asked me "do you remember the first time we
met"? This is a memory skill I
pride myself on, but honestly didn't recall the moment. I knew who she was and
where she had worked. The radio and record industry is a small world and our
business is very relationship based.
once and it was about 15 years ago. We were introduced by a mutual friend and
she and I then sparked up a great conversation with subjects changing every 3
minutes. (I was drinking gin and tonic, so that probably assisted in the flow
of random topics). She then asked me "do you remember the first time we
met"? This is a memory skill I
pride myself on, but honestly didn't recall the moment. I knew who she was and
where she had worked. The radio and record industry is a small world and our
business is very relationship based.
She said "you (meaning me) almost got us thrown out
of an artist showcase because you were making my laugh so damn hard". She
also followed with "you used to be fat".
of an artist showcase because you were making my laugh so damn hard". She
also followed with "you used to be fat".
So, the two takeaways I left her with were that I was
dangerously funny and fat. Got it. According to our first meeting and the
impression that was left, for the past 15 years, I was Chris Farley. Not how I
planned on leaving my mark in this world.
dangerously funny and fat. Got it. According to our first meeting and the
impression that was left, for the past 15 years, I was Chris Farley. Not how I
planned on leaving my mark in this world.
I'm not saying you should consume yourself with the
concern of what others think. Not at all. Honestly, it's not a terrible thing
to be a fat and funny guy, but are those the words you want chiseled on your
headstone when they lower your huge body, that was placed Ina piano case, into
the ground. Yeah, probably not. "He never met a joke or sandwich that he
didn't love".
concern of what others think. Not at all. Honestly, it's not a terrible thing
to be a fat and funny guy, but are those the words you want chiseled on your
headstone when they lower your huge body, that was placed Ina piano case, into
the ground. Yeah, probably not. "He never met a joke or sandwich that he
didn't love".
Having her remember me that way was much better than not
having her remember me at all. Nothing is more deflating to the sails than to
have someone not recall one single thing about you. Going to your 20 year
reunion and not having anyone remember being is class with you would suck. (I
mean you drove all that way). Being the date she doesn't remember isn't a
healthy for your mojo.
having her remember me at all. Nothing is more deflating to the sails than to
have someone not recall one single thing about you. Going to your 20 year
reunion and not having anyone remember being is class with you would suck. (I
mean you drove all that way). Being the date she doesn't remember isn't a
healthy for your mojo.
Again, there is no
need to obsess about this, but leaving the right impression is important.
Taking up space in someone else's brain, for the right reason, may not be your
biggest goal in life. Yet, if you're going to go through all these years on
planet earth, you might as well be memorable. Memorable for all the right
reasons.
need to obsess about this, but leaving the right impression is important.
Taking up space in someone else's brain, for the right reason, may not be your
biggest goal in life. Yet, if you're going to go through all these years on
planet earth, you might as well be memorable. Memorable for all the right
reasons.
Too often we
believe what we read. We believe what the people on TV tell us to believe.
Sometimes we dismiss our doctor's advice and buy into something we read on
someone else's Facebook wall. I "learned" how to be a better shot
with a rifle because of something I read in a Jack Reacher book. We are more
influenced today than ever before.
believe what we read. We believe what the people on TV tell us to believe.
Sometimes we dismiss our doctor's advice and buy into something we read on
someone else's Facebook wall. I "learned" how to be a better shot
with a rifle because of something I read in a Jack Reacher book. We are more
influenced today than ever before.
We are all a
bunch of sheep. We believe what sounds the most rational to us and what, most
likely, asks us to do the least amount of work.
We take pills because it's easier than going to the gym or facing the
fact that we eat too damn much. If it sounds good in our head-then it must be
the law and most likely the best and only way...till the next best and only way
idea comes along.
bunch of sheep. We believe what sounds the most rational to us and what, most
likely, asks us to do the least amount of work.
We take pills because it's easier than going to the gym or facing the
fact that we eat too damn much. If it sounds good in our head-then it must be
the law and most likely the best and only way...till the next best and only way
idea comes along.
It goes way
beyond that.
beyond that.
How many
times have you listened in on a conversation or been a part of a conversation
where we embrace someone's statements as the rule. They don't have to be an
expert on a subject, just as long as the information given sounded "right"
to us. "You don't need to change the oil in your car! Oil lasts forever, but the Oil Company and
Jiffy Lube want you to believe this so they can take your money". This sounds right to you because you don't
want to spend money and there is nothing "Jiffy" about spending an
hour (or more) of your Saturday getting your oil changed. Maybe YOU don't
believe this, but there's a sucker born every minute.
times have you listened in on a conversation or been a part of a conversation
where we embrace someone's statements as the rule. They don't have to be an
expert on a subject, just as long as the information given sounded "right"
to us. "You don't need to change the oil in your car! Oil lasts forever, but the Oil Company and
Jiffy Lube want you to believe this so they can take your money". This sounds right to you because you don't
want to spend money and there is nothing "Jiffy" about spending an
hour (or more) of your Saturday getting your oil changed. Maybe YOU don't
believe this, but there's a sucker born every minute.
Evaluate
your day and routine. How many things do you do or believe because of something
you heard. How many things do you do because your family did it that way and
because of that, it must be the best and only way to do it? When I got married,
I was quickly informed of how many things I did "wrong" (insert
sarcasm here). Years of doing the
laundry or doing the dishes, without screwing them up, only to find that I was
doing it all "wrong". With the use of the two magic words of "I
do", my routine and traditions were questioned and scrutinized. Yes, I'm
sure my wife sees it that way too.
your day and routine. How many things do you do or believe because of something
you heard. How many things do you do because your family did it that way and
because of that, it must be the best and only way to do it? When I got married,
I was quickly informed of how many things I did "wrong" (insert
sarcasm here). Years of doing the
laundry or doing the dishes, without screwing them up, only to find that I was
doing it all "wrong". With the use of the two magic words of "I
do", my routine and traditions were questioned and scrutinized. Yes, I'm
sure my wife sees it that way too.
What
prompted this blog?
prompted this blog?
While I was
checking out at the grocery store the other day, I got into a brief
conversation with the check out girl and the guy behind me in the 15 items or
less line. The topic? How long do you
need to hold the door for the person entering a building behind you? She said
"well, I saw a video on the internet that said it's a rule that you don't
need to hold the door for someone that is 10 feet or more behind you". I
laughed, but didn't have the heart to tell her that the person behind that viral
video, and the main "actor", was me. I guess I was convincing in my
role because this girl just communicated that same message to two complete
strangers.
checking out at the grocery store the other day, I got into a brief
conversation with the check out girl and the guy behind me in the 15 items or
less line. The topic? How long do you
need to hold the door for the person entering a building behind you? She said
"well, I saw a video on the internet that said it's a rule that you don't
need to hold the door for someone that is 10 feet or more behind you". I
laughed, but didn't have the heart to tell her that the person behind that viral
video, and the main "actor", was me. I guess I was convincing in my
role because this girl just communicated that same message to two complete
strangers.
If I can
change the routine of the grocery store checkout girl, Imagine what can be
accomplish with posting pictures of bad parking jobs and the caption of
#Tryharder. Imagine what you can accomplish by sharing your ideas, traditions
and perspective with others. Just make sure you use your powers for good and
not evil. Make sure your information is
real and based on some facts. If possible, share advice and tips that are meant
to better the world around you; because there are already enough people in this
world selling snake oil.
change the routine of the grocery store checkout girl, Imagine what can be
accomplish with posting pictures of bad parking jobs and the caption of
#Tryharder. Imagine what you can accomplish by sharing your ideas, traditions
and perspective with others. Just make sure you use your powers for good and
not evil. Make sure your information is
real and based on some facts. If possible, share advice and tips that are meant
to better the world around you; because there are already enough people in this
world selling snake oil.
#Tryharder