Do you have a drama addiction?

By Chase Murphy on November 15, 2014

I find it interesting when I see people cleaning up their
social media pages and dumping followers to insure that only the right people
are reading their very "important" posts.  The self-inflated “I am dropping people from
my Facebook page because I am making changes in my life…blah blah blah”.  Here’s a novel idea, why don’t you just do it
and not make an announcement about it? 
We all have a few 100 people on our friends list and there is a good
chance they probably won’t even notice if you dropped them.  Yet, you want to make an announcement.  You want the attention.  You want the drama.  “Hey look at me everybody! Not just anybody
can be my Facebook friends!  I’m
awesome!  Future Facebook friends will
need to fill out an application”.  Remember,
you’re dropping these people to rid your life off drama….right….

I am all about you cutting cancerous people from your
life.  It should be a special thing to be
a close friend of yours, but perhaps you are missing the point of Facebook,
social media and the reasons for networking? If you are close to a certain
group of people, then it shouldn't matter if they are on your page. You should
be texting, emailing or talking to these people on a regular basis.  Are you really so "busy" that your
close friends and family need to learn all the important things about you on
Facebook? Facebook isn't the place where grandma is supposed to learn about
your pregnancy. That's where the rest of the world is supposed to find out.
Realistically, the majority of your friends on Facebook are not the people you
intend on inviting to the baby shower and that’s ok.  
If you don't want me to read your occasional
passive-aggressive posts or look at your “awesome” vacation pictures, then by
all means, unlike me. I will get over it. By doing this you are missing the
point of "social media". Isn't the point of Facebook to share with
the rest of the world, especially exes, how great your life is now!?  Look how great I am doing without you!! I am
kidding, but you know that’s one of the reasons you are on Facebook and the
only reason you are Facebook friends with an ex!  Again, you love the drama.  I am not judging you, I am only forcing you
to be honest about it.  I too have exes
on my Facebook page.  After seeing how their
lives have turned out, I am thankful that I dodged a bullet with some of those
exes. 
What sparked this blog? 
No, it wasn’t because I saw a sudden drop in likes or noticed that an ex
wasn’t following me anymore.  I was
thumbing through my feed and noticed several posts in a row about people
purging friends from their page.  If you
want to make a statement to certain people on your page, why wouldn’t you
contact them directly?  Instead of the
post that has us all guessing what is going on, wouldn’t it be more efficient
if you just messaged them directly?  You won’t
do it.  You know why?  Because you are chicken.  Drama is more fun and safer when it’s shared
with an audience.  One on one drama gets
too personal and you don’t have anything public to hide behind.  This way, your supporters can chime in and
help bury the other person’s point. Sharing drama in a public place keeps the
other person from firing back as much as they would privately.  Remember the firing scene in Jerry
Maguire?  He didn’t freak out because he
was in a public place. 
Like spicy food or an occasional drink, we all like a
little bit of drama in our diet.  Like
anything that is bad for us, we have a sick addiction to keep a little of it in
our lives.  I suppose that drama is
healthier than drugs or alcohol, but like anything else, it needs to be
consumed in moderation.  I have seen it
happen.  There are people that, if they don’t
have anything crazy going on, create unnecessary drama.  “My personal life is going great, let me find
something wrong with my career”. “I have plenty of time to get there, but if I
show up late, that will give this day some drama”.  We all have moments where the addiction takes
over.  #Tryharder to make sure your
addiction to drama doesn’t become so familiar and needed that it grows and
effects all aspects of your life. 
Everything in moderation, because drama is inevitable.   
As everyone knows, you need to save the drama for your
mamma.   

ABOUT CHASE MURPHY

chasemurphy
Radio host, consultant, and Author, Chase Patrick Murphy is the creator of the #Tryharder philosophy. A way of thinking that encourages readers to stop, take a moment, and do the right thing. To try a little harder in life, do right by others, and make the additional effort to improve your situation and theirs.

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