I want to do more in my career and grow as a
professional. Like many of you, I would
welcome having a big fancy title, huge corner office or become the owner of
something successful and profitable. Watching my professional worth accumulate while
my bank account grows would be an amazing thing and I hope that it happens
someday. Big professional and financial
goals, along with many smaller ones, are always good to have.
professional. Like many of you, I would
welcome having a big fancy title, huge corner office or become the owner of
something successful and profitable. Watching my professional worth accumulate while
my bank account grows would be an amazing thing and I hope that it happens
someday. Big professional and financial
goals, along with many smaller ones, are always good to have.
Yet, it doesn't make a huge difference at the end of the
day does it? Years from now, nobody will
care about your fancy title. Yes, money affords certain opportunities and gives
you the ability to spoil yourself and others in your life. Money helps you
experience certain things and possibly opens a few doors for you along the way.
After you die, nobody will say "that guy was well respected and loved
because of all that money". Maybe one guy will? The guy that you leave it
all to. (Pick me!)
day does it? Years from now, nobody will
care about your fancy title. Yes, money affords certain opportunities and gives
you the ability to spoil yourself and others in your life. Money helps you
experience certain things and possibly opens a few doors for you along the way.
After you die, nobody will say "that guy was well respected and loved
because of all that money". Maybe one guy will? The guy that you leave it
all to. (Pick me!)
The majority of people will remember you for what kind of
person you were to others and not how you flexed your wallet. This entry isn't about how you should get rid
of your worldly possessions or join a cult. (Pretty sure Dave Ramsey doesn't
read my blog) Although, if you are rich and looking for someone to leave it to;
give it to me. I assure you, I will know how to enjoy your money more than you
do. I can do "rich" better
than anyone I know! I promise you!
person you were to others and not how you flexed your wallet. This entry isn't about how you should get rid
of your worldly possessions or join a cult. (Pretty sure Dave Ramsey doesn't
read my blog) Although, if you are rich and looking for someone to leave it to;
give it to me. I assure you, I will know how to enjoy your money more than you
do. I can do "rich" better
than anyone I know! I promise you!
This #Tryharder entry is about being great at something
real. What REAL things are you great at?
What contributions are you making to others, not necessarily the world,
that will make them better for having known you? Yes, I want to leave a stack
of cash for my wife and kids when I die, but I also want to give them tools of
betterment. I want them to be good to people. To care. To contribute to life
outside of their bubble and to give back to those who have done right by them.
They need to climb high, but never forget to reach out to the person behind
them and give assistance. In addition, not be resentful to those who did not show
them the same courtesy.
If the big greyhound bus of death has your name on it and
you get creamed tomorrow what, besides a fat insurance check, do you have to
show for your efforts? What seeds have
you planted and how will your legacy be shared by others you influenced along
the way? Were you great at something
real? Did you contribute anything real?
If you cannot think of one non-monetary contribution to your circle of
influence, then you need to reconsider a few things in your life and possibly
work on becoming a more complete individual. Also, make sure many, if not most,
of your contributions are selfless.
Be a great friend. A great teacher. A great student. A
great father, mother, brother or sister. Don't pass on opportunities where you
could have made a difference, even if that moment might bring you pain or cost
you monetarily in the process. You will never have "enough" money and
frankly you shouldn't be justifying or measuring what is the right thing to do, based on what's in your pocket. The only thing that money and being real have
in common is that you should always want more for yourself and others. Just
remember that contributions are always better than currency.
Truth be told, it’s not an easy thing to put your heart on
your sleeve a couple of times a month and share thoughts and feelings with the
world; or at least to those who have the time to click the link to the blogs I
post. I don’t always share intimate
feelings or deep dark secrets, but the act of sharing your perspective or
beliefs with the world can be terrifying to some. Putting your ideas out there
can be challenging. I do take the time
to write and rewrite some of my opinions and thoughts, but not for the reason
of worrying about offending people that read my entries. My rewrites are done to make sure that the
reader understands the true meaning behind the words. Also, because my grammar sucks and I do my best
to clean up as many mistakes as my state college education allows. One day, I hope to make it big so I can pay
someone to make me look smarter! Authors
and journalists have editors, I have spellcheck.
I do and I don’t care what people have to say about the
things I write and say. I do care,
because I want to make an impact in your life or plant a seed to encourage you
to think or respond in a certain way.
#Tryharder. I don’t care if I
offend, anger or make your eyes roll because you think differently. It’s your choice to read these chapters I post
and I am not forcing you to do anything.
I do not allow others to force me into changing the style or passion in
the way I write. I am who I am. Warts, moles and freckles and I show that
same respect to others. I respect
opinions. Even the ones I don’t agree
with.
things I write and say. I do care,
because I want to make an impact in your life or plant a seed to encourage you
to think or respond in a certain way.
#Tryharder. I don’t care if I
offend, anger or make your eyes roll because you think differently. It’s your choice to read these chapters I post
and I am not forcing you to do anything.
I do not allow others to force me into changing the style or passion in
the way I write. I am who I am. Warts, moles and freckles and I show that
same respect to others. I respect
opinions. Even the ones I don’t agree
with.
There are people in this world that want to be
offended. They feel that they cannot be
sensitive to the world if they have thick skin, so they look to be
bothered. These same people rarely offer
up their opinion, but rather wait to argue with someone who has already shared
theirs. It’s safer to be a critic than
it is to be a seed planter of thoughts. People
with carefully calculated responses often just pick things apart and offer up
very little when it comes to the betterment of others. You want to be “right” and “win” the
discussion and you care very little about the most important part-the takeaway.
Maybe I’m different? Yes, I want a
solution, but I look to take something away from every discussion I am involved
with. I’m perfectly fine with being
offended and “wrong” as long as we get to where we need to go. I don’t need to win.
offended. They feel that they cannot be
sensitive to the world if they have thick skin, so they look to be
bothered. These same people rarely offer
up their opinion, but rather wait to argue with someone who has already shared
theirs. It’s safer to be a critic than
it is to be a seed planter of thoughts. People
with carefully calculated responses often just pick things apart and offer up
very little when it comes to the betterment of others. You want to be “right” and “win” the
discussion and you care very little about the most important part-the takeaway.
Maybe I’m different? Yes, I want a
solution, but I look to take something away from every discussion I am involved
with. I’m perfectly fine with being
offended and “wrong” as long as we get to where we need to go. I don’t need to win.
The #Tryharder “philosophy” has always been about getting
people to think of a better way or consider altering the course for the
betterment of others by digging a little deeper. Trying harder. By sharing my thoughts and stories, I hope to
plant seeds of consideration and give others an opportunity to do the same. I’m honest about my life and the scars that I
carry are the foundation of almost all of my chapters. If I, a simple kid from a small town in Texas
with a state college education and limited editing skills, can honestly push out
thoughts and feelings into the world and get 10s of thousands of people to read
them-then you can do the same. You don’t
have to influence tribes of people, but you should want to make a difference
somewhere. If my blogs don’t do it, then
perhaps the pictures of terrible parking jobs will help to alter the behavior
of others?
people to think of a better way or consider altering the course for the
betterment of others by digging a little deeper. Trying harder. By sharing my thoughts and stories, I hope to
plant seeds of consideration and give others an opportunity to do the same. I’m honest about my life and the scars that I
carry are the foundation of almost all of my chapters. If I, a simple kid from a small town in Texas
with a state college education and limited editing skills, can honestly push out
thoughts and feelings into the world and get 10s of thousands of people to read
them-then you can do the same. You don’t
have to influence tribes of people, but you should want to make a difference
somewhere. If my blogs don’t do it, then
perhaps the pictures of terrible parking jobs will help to alter the behavior
of others?
You only get one go-round on this planet and you owe It to
yourself and others to leave as much of “you” (your contributions and
perspective) behind for people to learn from.
Maybe I am different? I don’t
expect others to be like me. I am not
trying to lead an army of like-minded people and I don’t see myself as anything
more than who I am. Yet, having
experienced what I have experienced in life, I would like to think I have
something to offer the rest of the world.
You too have a unique perspective.
Not every blog or life lesson that I offer is a homerun and I don’t
expect it to be. I’m just trying to get
you to #Tryharder a few times a month. Nothing
major, but maybe just enough to get you to plant seeds of your own for others
to benefit from.
yourself and others to leave as much of “you” (your contributions and
perspective) behind for people to learn from.
Maybe I am different? I don’t
expect others to be like me. I am not
trying to lead an army of like-minded people and I don’t see myself as anything
more than who I am. Yet, having
experienced what I have experienced in life, I would like to think I have
something to offer the rest of the world.
You too have a unique perspective.
Not every blog or life lesson that I offer is a homerun and I don’t
expect it to be. I’m just trying to get
you to #Tryharder a few times a month. Nothing
major, but maybe just enough to get you to plant seeds of your own for others
to benefit from.
We all know someone that has it worse than we do. They
carry around mental and maybe physical scars that they use to try to impress us
with. Whatever terrible story from your childhood you bring to the table, they
have experienced something way worse and carry that sadness like a badge of
honor. It’s one thing to own your scars, it's another thing to constantly draw
them like an insecure sword and gain attention through pity. Congrats. You win. I'm not even going to
watch the race, let alone allow myself to enter.
Stop.
Fueling your fragile ego with the attention you get
through the pity of others is no way to move forward in life. I have had
several unfortunate events happen in my life and it would be easy for me to
allow others to look upon me with sadness or treat me as a wounded person.
Giving up and demanding special treatment from others because you took a few
lumps in life is shameful. You are
better than that.
through the pity of others is no way to move forward in life. I have had
several unfortunate events happen in my life and it would be easy for me to
allow others to look upon me with sadness or treat me as a wounded person.
Giving up and demanding special treatment from others because you took a few
lumps in life is shameful. You are
better than that.
I never want people to look upon me with pity or sadness.
I don't want to be known as the "sad sack" in the room or have people
feel the need to tip toe around me or filter what they say because they fear
they might set me off and hurt my feelings. Your wounds are your wounds. My
wounds are my wounds. We should not have to carry any additional burden for the
other person. Sure, be mindful and don't be an asshole, but don't change who
you are when you are around me. I'll do the same around you.
I don't want to be known as the "sad sack" in the room or have people
feel the need to tip toe around me or filter what they say because they fear
they might set me off and hurt my feelings. Your wounds are your wounds. My
wounds are my wounds. We should not have to carry any additional burden for the
other person. Sure, be mindful and don't be an asshole, but don't change who
you are when you are around me. I'll do the same around you.
Use your wounds to fuel you.
I believe I have lived a blessed life. Regardless of what
short straws I may have drawn over the years (or those drawn for me), I have
fought and climbed to not allow those events to scar me or change me for the
worse. If you're handed a bag of shit in life, burn it. Use the fuel from it to
grow, move forward and improve your situation and the situations of others. Fertilizer
is made from shit. Fertilizer helps plants.
If it’s good enough for the earth, it’s good enough for you, right?
short straws I may have drawn over the years (or those drawn for me), I have
fought and climbed to not allow those events to scar me or change me for the
worse. If you're handed a bag of shit in life, burn it. Use the fuel from it to
grow, move forward and improve your situation and the situations of others. Fertilizer
is made from shit. Fertilizer helps plants.
If it’s good enough for the earth, it’s good enough for you, right?
I'm not suggesting you bury your feelings or suppress
them to the point where you become a walking time bomb. Just don't walk around
begging for attention because of your scars. Doing that will only make you a
magnet for more pain. The more baggage
you allow yourself to carry, the more you will be expected and cursed to carry.
Make peace with your baggage. Examine it from all angles and look for ways to
make yourself better because of it.
them to the point where you become a walking time bomb. Just don't walk around
begging for attention because of your scars. Doing that will only make you a
magnet for more pain. The more baggage
you allow yourself to carry, the more you will be expected and cursed to carry.
Make peace with your baggage. Examine it from all angles and look for ways to
make yourself better because of it.
Also, you will never win the sad sack race. Someone will
always be sadder and more pathetic than you.
always be sadder and more pathetic than you.
#Tryharder
I find it interesting when I see people cleaning up their
social media pages and dumping followers to insure that only the right people
are reading their very "important" posts. The self-inflated “I am dropping people from
my Facebook page because I am making changes in my life…blah blah blah”. Here’s a novel idea, why don’t you just do it
and not make an announcement about it?
We all have a few 100 people on our friends list and there is a good
chance they probably won’t even notice if you dropped them. Yet, you want to make an announcement. You want the attention. You want the drama. “Hey look at me everybody! Not just anybody
can be my Facebook friends! I’m
awesome! Future Facebook friends will
need to fill out an application”. Remember,
you’re dropping these people to rid your life off drama….right….
I am all about you cutting cancerous people from your
life. It should be a special thing to be
a close friend of yours, but perhaps you are missing the point of Facebook,
social media and the reasons for networking? If you are close to a certain
group of people, then it shouldn't matter if they are on your page. You should
be texting, emailing or talking to these people on a regular basis. Are you really so "busy" that your
close friends and family need to learn all the important things about you on
Facebook? Facebook isn't the place where grandma is supposed to learn about
your pregnancy. That's where the rest of the world is supposed to find out.
Realistically, the majority of your friends on Facebook are not the people you
intend on inviting to the baby shower and that’s ok.
life. It should be a special thing to be
a close friend of yours, but perhaps you are missing the point of Facebook,
social media and the reasons for networking? If you are close to a certain
group of people, then it shouldn't matter if they are on your page. You should
be texting, emailing or talking to these people on a regular basis. Are you really so "busy" that your
close friends and family need to learn all the important things about you on
Facebook? Facebook isn't the place where grandma is supposed to learn about
your pregnancy. That's where the rest of the world is supposed to find out.
Realistically, the majority of your friends on Facebook are not the people you
intend on inviting to the baby shower and that’s ok.
If you don't want me to read your occasional
passive-aggressive posts or look at your “awesome” vacation pictures, then by
all means, unlike me. I will get over it. By doing this you are missing the
point of "social media". Isn't the point of Facebook to share with
the rest of the world, especially exes, how great your life is now!? Look how great I am doing without you!! I am
kidding, but you know that’s one of the reasons you are on Facebook and the
only reason you are Facebook friends with an ex! Again, you love the drama. I am not judging you, I am only forcing you
to be honest about it. I too have exes
on my Facebook page. After seeing how their
lives have turned out, I am thankful that I dodged a bullet with some of those
exes.
passive-aggressive posts or look at your “awesome” vacation pictures, then by
all means, unlike me. I will get over it. By doing this you are missing the
point of "social media". Isn't the point of Facebook to share with
the rest of the world, especially exes, how great your life is now!? Look how great I am doing without you!! I am
kidding, but you know that’s one of the reasons you are on Facebook and the
only reason you are Facebook friends with an ex! Again, you love the drama. I am not judging you, I am only forcing you
to be honest about it. I too have exes
on my Facebook page. After seeing how their
lives have turned out, I am thankful that I dodged a bullet with some of those
exes.
What sparked this blog?
No, it wasn’t because I saw a sudden drop in likes or noticed that an ex
wasn’t following me anymore. I was
thumbing through my feed and noticed several posts in a row about people
purging friends from their page. If you
want to make a statement to certain people on your page, why wouldn’t you
contact them directly? Instead of the
post that has us all guessing what is going on, wouldn’t it be more efficient
if you just messaged them directly? You won’t
do it. You know why? Because you are chicken. Drama is more fun and safer when it’s shared
with an audience. One on one drama gets
too personal and you don’t have anything public to hide behind. This way, your supporters can chime in and
help bury the other person’s point. Sharing drama in a public place keeps the
other person from firing back as much as they would privately. Remember the firing scene in Jerry
Maguire? He didn’t freak out because he
was in a public place.
No, it wasn’t because I saw a sudden drop in likes or noticed that an ex
wasn’t following me anymore. I was
thumbing through my feed and noticed several posts in a row about people
purging friends from their page. If you
want to make a statement to certain people on your page, why wouldn’t you
contact them directly? Instead of the
post that has us all guessing what is going on, wouldn’t it be more efficient
if you just messaged them directly? You won’t
do it. You know why? Because you are chicken. Drama is more fun and safer when it’s shared
with an audience. One on one drama gets
too personal and you don’t have anything public to hide behind. This way, your supporters can chime in and
help bury the other person’s point. Sharing drama in a public place keeps the
other person from firing back as much as they would privately. Remember the firing scene in Jerry
Maguire? He didn’t freak out because he
was in a public place.
Like spicy food or an occasional drink, we all like a
little bit of drama in our diet. Like
anything that is bad for us, we have a sick addiction to keep a little of it in
our lives. I suppose that drama is
healthier than drugs or alcohol, but like anything else, it needs to be
consumed in moderation. I have seen it
happen. There are people that, if they don’t
have anything crazy going on, create unnecessary drama. “My personal life is going great, let me find
something wrong with my career”. “I have plenty of time to get there, but if I
show up late, that will give this day some drama”. We all have moments where the addiction takes
over. #Tryharder to make sure your
addiction to drama doesn’t become so familiar and needed that it grows and
effects all aspects of your life.
Everything in moderation, because drama is inevitable.
little bit of drama in our diet. Like
anything that is bad for us, we have a sick addiction to keep a little of it in
our lives. I suppose that drama is
healthier than drugs or alcohol, but like anything else, it needs to be
consumed in moderation. I have seen it
happen. There are people that, if they don’t
have anything crazy going on, create unnecessary drama. “My personal life is going great, let me find
something wrong with my career”. “I have plenty of time to get there, but if I
show up late, that will give this day some drama”. We all have moments where the addiction takes
over. #Tryharder to make sure your
addiction to drama doesn’t become so familiar and needed that it grows and
effects all aspects of your life.
Everything in moderation, because drama is inevitable.
As everyone knows, you need to save the drama for your
mamma.
mamma.
"You reap what you sow".
The problem with most of us (ok maybe all of us) when it
comes to that phrase is that we don't have the patience for it to come full
circle. We live in a "gotta see it now" society that is void of
patience. If projects or relationships
don't immediately yield results, we pull out and move on to something new. We
know it's not healthy, but we just can't help ourselves.
comes to that phrase is that we don't have the patience for it to come full
circle. We live in a "gotta see it now" society that is void of
patience. If projects or relationships
don't immediately yield results, we pull out and move on to something new. We
know it's not healthy, but we just can't help ourselves.
Remember, you will never reap the immediate results of
the sowing of today.
the sowing of today.
Like you, it’s often a challenge for me to see things
through to the end. Much of my workday is measured by results and the immediacy
that comes with having to provide results and answers to questions and
obstacles. No matter the amount of coaching or explanation, others do not see
or share in the vision; especially if the results of that vision are not
immediate. Pressure from others or yourself can often push you to move faster
on tasks or relationships than you want. You have to see it through at the
proper tempo and that is not easy.
through to the end. Much of my workday is measured by results and the immediacy
that comes with having to provide results and answers to questions and
obstacles. No matter the amount of coaching or explanation, others do not see
or share in the vision; especially if the results of that vision are not
immediate. Pressure from others or yourself can often push you to move faster
on tasks or relationships than you want. You have to see it through at the
proper tempo and that is not easy.
Having patience with relationships can be even more
challenging than projects. When you are
networking, you often feel that you are giving more to the relationship than
the other person. No relationships in life are ever 50/50, so expecting
everything to be balanced is ridiculous.
Others will rarely see the value that you see in the relationship. You have to measure the value of that
relationship and #tryharder if you feel it is important. I am not suggesting
you keep score in life, but it's perfectly healthy to weigh and measure your
relationships. This allows you to keep from being taken advantage of, but also
make sure to acknowledge those who are willing to go the distance with you
(Ride or Die Chick!).
challenging than projects. When you are
networking, you often feel that you are giving more to the relationship than
the other person. No relationships in life are ever 50/50, so expecting
everything to be balanced is ridiculous.
Others will rarely see the value that you see in the relationship. You have to measure the value of that
relationship and #tryharder if you feel it is important. I am not suggesting
you keep score in life, but it's perfectly healthy to weigh and measure your
relationships. This allows you to keep from being taken advantage of, but also
make sure to acknowledge those who are willing to go the distance with you
(Ride or Die Chick!).
I try to keep touch with as many people as I can. Former
employees, coworkers, bosses, and random people I have connected with along the
way. It's important to not lose touch with your immediate community and the
other communities you are tethered to from various stages and chapters of your
life. From grade school to your professional life, it's important to stay
connected. (Unless everyone hated you in the 3rd grade and called you "bed
wetter Betty". You can go ahead and unplug from those people) If people
are cancerous to your life or career, you certainly need to weigh and examine
your relationship with them as well. Not
everyone is meant to remain as a contact in your iPhone, but you have to
evaluate the difference between a cancerous relationship and a challenging one.
employees, coworkers, bosses, and random people I have connected with along the
way. It's important to not lose touch with your immediate community and the
other communities you are tethered to from various stages and chapters of your
life. From grade school to your professional life, it's important to stay
connected. (Unless everyone hated you in the 3rd grade and called you "bed
wetter Betty". You can go ahead and unplug from those people) If people
are cancerous to your life or career, you certainly need to weigh and examine
your relationship with them as well. Not
everyone is meant to remain as a contact in your iPhone, but you have to
evaluate the difference between a cancerous relationship and a challenging one.
Selfishly, it is never a bad idea to stay in contact with
people who might eventually help you in your career. The obvious is former
employers (that you didn't burn bridges with) because they might be able to
hire you or refer you to someone else if you find yourself in need of a new
job. It is equally important to stay connected with former employees or people
you have worked with along the way. These people can be of great use to you
when you need a dynamic person to help your business grow. In management, keeping a stable of talent to
hire from is essential. Even if you
never have the opportunity to hire them, it’s always good to have a plan “B”
person up your sleeve.
people who might eventually help you in your career. The obvious is former
employers (that you didn't burn bridges with) because they might be able to
hire you or refer you to someone else if you find yourself in need of a new
job. It is equally important to stay connected with former employees or people
you have worked with along the way. These people can be of great use to you
when you need a dynamic person to help your business grow. In management, keeping a stable of talent to
hire from is essential. Even if you
never have the opportunity to hire them, it’s always good to have a plan “B”
person up your sleeve.
Then, it happens.
You rush it. You invest a little
time in making a connection. You take
that person to lunch or you call them a few times to keep the “friendship”
going. Then that moment arrives when you
feel you can call in a favor or finally spend some of the equity you think you
have in that relationship and they aren’t there for you. Why?
Perhaps they don’t value the relationship as much as you do? Maybe you don’t have enough of the things
they deem important or your timing is just wrong. Some people are not of the networking mind
and never take the time to cultivate relationships with the same interest that
you have. As a manager, I find the most
frustrating people to be the ones that only reach out or connect when they need
something. Look, we all need something,
but you need to have some tact in your approach. Networking, when you are trying to get ahead
in your career, is not hitting up an employer whenever they have an
opening. Networking is staying connected
at the times when neither one of you have a need for each other. Keeping a flow of communication for months,
maybe years, before the opportunity presents itself. Even if that opportunity never happens, that
connection can still be very valuable.
You rush it. You invest a little
time in making a connection. You take
that person to lunch or you call them a few times to keep the “friendship”
going. Then that moment arrives when you
feel you can call in a favor or finally spend some of the equity you think you
have in that relationship and they aren’t there for you. Why?
Perhaps they don’t value the relationship as much as you do? Maybe you don’t have enough of the things
they deem important or your timing is just wrong. Some people are not of the networking mind
and never take the time to cultivate relationships with the same interest that
you have. As a manager, I find the most
frustrating people to be the ones that only reach out or connect when they need
something. Look, we all need something,
but you need to have some tact in your approach. Networking, when you are trying to get ahead
in your career, is not hitting up an employer whenever they have an
opening. Networking is staying connected
at the times when neither one of you have a need for each other. Keeping a flow of communication for months,
maybe years, before the opportunity presents itself. Even if that opportunity never happens, that
connection can still be very valuable.
So where do you draw the line? Do you pull out of the relationship and
invest your time elsewhere? I guess it all
depends on how important that relationship is to you. Maybe you came on too strong or maybe you
have little to offer in the eyes of the other person. Maybe you back off a bit and find other
people that have similar opportunities to offer? If you are networking properly, you should
have a deep bench of people that you connect, and continue to connect,
with. Healthy networking should be part
of your lifestyle and not just something you do for advancement. Understand that we need to invest in people
and relationships if we want to progress in life and career. You must also keep in mind that all
relationships are investments that mature differently and we will get nothing
back if we don’t at least try.
invest your time elsewhere? I guess it all
depends on how important that relationship is to you. Maybe you came on too strong or maybe you
have little to offer in the eyes of the other person. Maybe you back off a bit and find other
people that have similar opportunities to offer? If you are networking properly, you should
have a deep bench of people that you connect, and continue to connect,
with. Healthy networking should be part
of your lifestyle and not just something you do for advancement. Understand that we need to invest in people
and relationships if we want to progress in life and career. You must also keep in mind that all
relationships are investments that mature differently and we will get nothing
back if we don’t at least try.
There are
people that feel compelled to always draw battle lines.
people that feel compelled to always draw battle lines.
Constantly
testing relationships and the distance people will go for you is not the
healthiest way to live your life or build relationships. By continuing to
separate yourself from the world and challenging the depth of your
relationships, you will end up isolated and longer than arms length from the
ones you want attention and support from.
testing relationships and the distance people will go for you is not the
healthiest way to live your life or build relationships. By continuing to
separate yourself from the world and challenging the depth of your
relationships, you will end up isolated and longer than arms length from the
ones you want attention and support from.
Don't be a
separator of things-be a unifier. Don't push or pull-attract. Be magnetic and
not polarizing. Be inclusive and not
exclusive. Be a flame.
separator of things-be a unifier. Don't push or pull-attract. Be magnetic and
not polarizing. Be inclusive and not
exclusive. Be a flame.
Standing
with your arms folded, waiting for the world to see it your way and adapt to
you is a ridiculous waste of time. Pouting till the masses decide to join you
and wondering why you are all alone. These are the things my 4 year old does
and then stops doing once he sees the other kids having lots of fun doing
something else. He then rejoins the group.
with your arms folded, waiting for the world to see it your way and adapt to
you is a ridiculous waste of time. Pouting till the masses decide to join you
and wondering why you are all alone. These are the things my 4 year old does
and then stops doing once he sees the other kids having lots of fun doing
something else. He then rejoins the group.
Cut it out.
Find a better solution.
Find a better solution.
If you head
down this path and realize that nobody is following you, then your opinion and
belief is flawed or you've done a terrible job of convincing the crowd to
follow you.
down this path and realize that nobody is following you, then your opinion and
belief is flawed or you've done a terrible job of convincing the crowd to
follow you.
Do you truly
want to be a leader? Reset.
want to be a leader? Reset.
Erase your
line in the sand and come up with a better plan. Unfold your arms and stop
pouting. Erase the passive-aggressive posts from Facebook and stop chumming for
likes. Admit temporary defeat and realize you may have to approach this from a
different angle. Holding others
accountable is a lot different than trying to force everyone to see and buy
into your passionate belief. Don't let your passion cloud your goal. Remember,
there are 1000 right ways to get there. Hell, even a few wrong ways will yield the
same results.
line in the sand and come up with a better plan. Unfold your arms and stop
pouting. Erase the passive-aggressive posts from Facebook and stop chumming for
likes. Admit temporary defeat and realize you may have to approach this from a
different angle. Holding others
accountable is a lot different than trying to force everyone to see and buy
into your passionate belief. Don't let your passion cloud your goal. Remember,
there are 1000 right ways to get there. Hell, even a few wrong ways will yield the
same results.
The world is
not designed to adapt to you or revolve around your feelings. Stop pouting and
stomping your feet. Stop drawing ridiculous lines in the sand and waiting for
everyone to give up and join you. It's always easier to get people to follow
you once you've joined in and built trust.
Even natural born leaders need to #tryharder and convince the group of
their abilities.
not designed to adapt to you or revolve around your feelings. Stop pouting and
stomping your feet. Stop drawing ridiculous lines in the sand and waiting for
everyone to give up and join you. It's always easier to get people to follow
you once you've joined in and built trust.
Even natural born leaders need to #tryharder and convince the group of
their abilities.
Or you can
just continue to fold your arms and frown while everyone else is having all the
fun. How's that working out for you?
just continue to fold your arms and frown while everyone else is having all the
fun. How's that working out for you?
#Tryharder.
It occurred to me, the other morning while grabbing my
jug of unsweet tea to have with breakfast, that everything that
"belongs" to me in the Murphy family refrigerator is on the bottom
shelf.
jug of unsweet tea to have with breakfast, that everything that
"belongs" to me in the Murphy family refrigerator is on the bottom
shelf.
The cottage cheese-bottom
Unsweet tea-bottom
Roast beef lunch meat-bottom.
Spicy V-8-bottom
The only thing that would be considered 100%
"mine" in the fridge would be the beer. Beer, the beverage that truly
belongs to the head of the household, is the only thing that consistently
resides on the top shelf. My wife probably puts it there so I can't make the
kids get it for me since they can't reach the top shelf of the fridge. I'm
certain that this is her way of holding something over my head; as you know,
wives have a tendency to play mind games with husbands in an attempt to prove
household dominance. This isn’t common
knowledge? Maybe I should make her get
them for me? Hmmm.
"mine" in the fridge would be the beer. Beer, the beverage that truly
belongs to the head of the household, is the only thing that consistently
resides on the top shelf. My wife probably puts it there so I can't make the
kids get it for me since they can't reach the top shelf of the fridge. I'm
certain that this is her way of holding something over my head; as you know,
wives have a tendency to play mind games with husbands in an attempt to prove
household dominance. This isn’t common
knowledge? Maybe I should make her get
them for me? Hmmm.
I'm the tallest person in the house and all of the perishable
items that I use, on a regular basis, sit on the bottom shelf of the
refrigerator. There has got to be some symbolism in that, right?
items that I use, on a regular basis, sit on the bottom shelf of the
refrigerator. There has got to be some symbolism in that, right?
Are you putting away the groceries in your life? That
just sounds funny to me. I'm laughing out loud as I type these words into my
iPhone. (I'm using the iPhone to write today, since my 4 year old decided to
drop my iPad a few weeks ago. Awesome right?)
Are you taking the time to put yourself on the top shelf? There are times in life when it is very necessary
to put yourself first. To make sure you are holding your needs and feelings
higher than those of others. You owe it to yourself to put your needs (grocery
items) on the top shelf.
just sounds funny to me. I'm laughing out loud as I type these words into my
iPhone. (I'm using the iPhone to write today, since my 4 year old decided to
drop my iPad a few weeks ago. Awesome right?)
Are you taking the time to put yourself on the top shelf? There are times in life when it is very necessary
to put yourself first. To make sure you are holding your needs and feelings
higher than those of others. You owe it to yourself to put your needs (grocery
items) on the top shelf.
If you allow others in your life to dictate the placement
of your needs and feelings, you will never be happy with the order and
placement of your life. You need to prioritize YOU and stand up and be
heard!
of your needs and feelings, you will never be happy with the order and
placement of your life. You need to prioritize YOU and stand up and be
heard!
I WILL NOT ALLOW YOU TO PUT ME IN THE CRISPER!!! I AM TOP SHELF USDA GRADE "A"
BEEF!!!
BEEF!!!
This requires some work.
You have to be willing to prioritize, do the shopping and put forth the
effort to properly shelve and place the groceries-your needs. You have to communicate with the other
members of the family totem pole and they need to understand and respect your
needs and concerns. Demand the attention you deserve and express
yourself. If you do not, your needs and
feeling will be left to spoil.
You have to be willing to prioritize, do the shopping and put forth the
effort to properly shelve and place the groceries-your needs. You have to communicate with the other
members of the family totem pole and they need to understand and respect your
needs and concerns. Demand the attention you deserve and express
yourself. If you do not, your needs and
feeling will be left to spoil.
Time to rearrange my fridge…while my wife is in the other
room.
room.
I often write about my children. They are the most amazing people in my
life. Because of them, I #tryharder. I test and push myself to be
better because they deserve a dad that desires to be the role model they can be
proud of. I want them to grow up never
doubting how much their dad loves them or see limits to that love. Like most parents, there is nothing I
wouldn’t do for my children.
life. Because of them, I #tryharder. I test and push myself to be
better because they deserve a dad that desires to be the role model they can be
proud of. I want them to grow up never
doubting how much their dad loves them or see limits to that love. Like most parents, there is nothing I
wouldn’t do for my children.
I am terrible with remembering directions. I could potentially get lost, every day, as I
drive home from work. Yet, there are
moments, conversations and events, from 10+ years prior, that I can recall
almost verbatim. I was in a
communications class in college and the professor asked one of the older
students, who was a first time father, this interesting question. “If someone kidnapped your baby and set her
on the edge of a steal beam 20 stories up, would you be able to save her”? The new father answered the question before
the professor finished. “Yes, no doubt
about it. Without hesitation”. This
conversation happened during a morning class in college, almost 20 years ago,
and I can remember it like it was yesterday.
I even recall the expression on the student’s face when he said it.
drive home from work. Yet, there are
moments, conversations and events, from 10+ years prior, that I can recall
almost verbatim. I was in a
communications class in college and the professor asked one of the older
students, who was a first time father, this interesting question. “If someone kidnapped your baby and set her
on the edge of a steal beam 20 stories up, would you be able to save her”? The new father answered the question before
the professor finished. “Yes, no doubt
about it. Without hesitation”. This
conversation happened during a morning class in college, almost 20 years ago,
and I can remember it like it was yesterday.
I even recall the expression on the student’s face when he said it.
At the time, I couldn’t imagine loving someone that
much. Having to think about facing your
biggest fear and possible death, to save another person. Yes, I come from a loving family and I would
kill for those who share my last name, but at that point in my life, I had
never experienced the love of being a parent.
I was in college, so I was doing everything I could to prevent being a
parent!!
much. Having to think about facing your
biggest fear and possible death, to save another person. Yes, I come from a loving family and I would
kill for those who share my last name, but at that point in my life, I had
never experienced the love of being a parent.
I was in college, so I was doing everything I could to prevent being a
parent!!
My children have certainly tested not only my love, but my
patience, internal strength and yes, even my gag reflexes. I’m absolutely not trying to paint myself as
a martyr, but any parent knows or has experienced first-hand the testing of
that parental love and I effortlessly dig deep for my children. If the professor would have asked the 19 year
old version of me that same question, I doubt I would have been able to answer
it with the same urgency as my classmate.
You never truly understand until you become a parent.
patience, internal strength and yes, even my gag reflexes. I’m absolutely not trying to paint myself as
a martyr, but any parent knows or has experienced first-hand the testing of
that parental love and I effortlessly dig deep for my children. If the professor would have asked the 19 year
old version of me that same question, I doubt I would have been able to answer
it with the same urgency as my classmate.
You never truly understand until you become a parent.
There is a difference between “have to” and “need to”. When you “need to”, it is because it’s the right
thing to do. Regardless the pain
involved, you NEED to do this-no excuses. If you are a parent, then I think you
understand what I mean by that. Kids
will push you into experiences or limits that you would never imagine. Moments that are often “forced to” become
moments of “need to”. Children will turn
the most selfish people into the most selfless.
Take a look at your Facebook page and see how many of your irresponsible
friends from high school and college are posting selfies with their 3 kids. That same person, that used to pass out on
your couch after doing 22 keg stands in a row, is now the head of PTA, teaches
or runs a daycare. Crazy right? We are all capable of growing up to be
something greater than our younger self.
I’m curious to see what my college girlfriends or buddies would say
about the person I was then versus the person I am today.
thing to do. Regardless the pain
involved, you NEED to do this-no excuses. If you are a parent, then I think you
understand what I mean by that. Kids
will push you into experiences or limits that you would never imagine. Moments that are often “forced to” become
moments of “need to”. Children will turn
the most selfish people into the most selfless.
Take a look at your Facebook page and see how many of your irresponsible
friends from high school and college are posting selfies with their 3 kids. That same person, that used to pass out on
your couch after doing 22 keg stands in a row, is now the head of PTA, teaches
or runs a daycare. Crazy right? We are all capable of growing up to be
something greater than our younger self.
I’m curious to see what my college girlfriends or buddies would say
about the person I was then versus the person I am today.
Sometimes you NEED TO sit with puke on your shirt and pants
for the remaining 45 minutes of a flight, while the plane circles the airport
and you can’t get up. Because acting
like an idiot will only make the situation worse for your daughter. This moment isn’t about you.
for the remaining 45 minutes of a flight, while the plane circles the airport
and you can’t get up. Because acting
like an idiot will only make the situation worse for your daughter. This moment isn’t about you.
Sometimes you NEED TO ride a rollercoaster that you don’t
want to get on, knowing it will make you feel like crap for the next 30
minutes, but your daughter chose YOU as the person she wants to ride it with. Again, this moment isn’t about you. Suck it up!
want to get on, knowing it will make you feel like crap for the next 30
minutes, but your daughter chose YOU as the person she wants to ride it with. Again, this moment isn’t about you. Suck it up!
Sometimes you NEED TO be there for your niece, when her
father (your brother) passes away. Not
forcing yourself into her life or situations out of obligation, but being there
when needed out of love. The same love
you have for your own children. It’s
good to grieve, but her future is more important than your feelings. When it comes to kids, don’t dare put
yourself first.
father (your brother) passes away. Not
forcing yourself into her life or situations out of obligation, but being there
when needed out of love. The same love
you have for your own children. It’s
good to grieve, but her future is more important than your feelings. When it comes to kids, don’t dare put
yourself first.
Sometimes you NEED TO put your damn phone away and pay
attention to what is going on in front of you.
Seeing your kid hit a baseball for the first time is much better than
wondering why nobody has liked your status.
Better yet, resist the urge of posting the picture of that at bat, as
some things should be YOURS and not necessarily shared with the social media universe. I take and post many pictures of my kids, but
they make up less than 1% of the things I choose to capture with my own eyes
and not through the screen of my iPhone.
Instagram has my son’s 3rd at bat. The first at bat was seen with my eyes, no
filter.
attention to what is going on in front of you.
Seeing your kid hit a baseball for the first time is much better than
wondering why nobody has liked your status.
Better yet, resist the urge of posting the picture of that at bat, as
some things should be YOURS and not necessarily shared with the social media universe. I take and post many pictures of my kids, but
they make up less than 1% of the things I choose to capture with my own eyes
and not through the screen of my iPhone.
Instagram has my son’s 3rd at bat. The first at bat was seen with my eyes, no
filter.
Being a parent shows you what you are capable of and opens
doors to the depth of the love you possess.
I am not saying, because you might not be a parent, that you are not
capable of loving unconditionally. I am
just forecasting, to those future parents, that you will have a lot to look
forward to when or if that time comes. I
want to instill the confidence that you will be capable of more love and depth
than you will ever know. Not love out of
obligation, but natural love that comes without hesitation.
doors to the depth of the love you possess.
I am not saying, because you might not be a parent, that you are not
capable of loving unconditionally. I am
just forecasting, to those future parents, that you will have a lot to look
forward to when or if that time comes. I
want to instill the confidence that you will be capable of more love and depth
than you will ever know. Not love out of
obligation, but natural love that comes without hesitation.
Then again, you don’t have to be a parent in order to love
like this. If you love others in your
life out of NEED TO love and not out of HAVE TO obligation, I truly believe
your relationships will be happier, easier and healthier. I’m not suggesting that you live so
selflessly that you love complete strangers, acquaintances or even all friends
this way. I’m realistic…I don’t even care
for all the people in my life with this level of dedication and I don’t expect
others to be THAT compassionate. There’s
only one Pope, that’s his gig.
like this. If you love others in your
life out of NEED TO love and not out of HAVE TO obligation, I truly believe
your relationships will be happier, easier and healthier. I’m not suggesting that you live so
selflessly that you love complete strangers, acquaintances or even all friends
this way. I’m realistic…I don’t even care
for all the people in my life with this level of dedication and I don’t expect
others to be THAT compassionate. There’s
only one Pope, that’s his gig.
If your life consists of more “have to” relationships or
moments than it does “need to”, it might be time to evaluate the balance of
your emotions and time. Yes, life has its
challenges, but caring for others and the things you prioritize should come as
effortless as loving children.
moments than it does “need to”, it might be time to evaluate the balance of
your emotions and time. Yes, life has its
challenges, but caring for others and the things you prioritize should come as
effortless as loving children.
What skill or ability do you possess that helps you to stand
out? Something that enhances your career
or personal life. A skill that helps you
and others. Do you even know what it is or do you not have the confidence to acknowledge
or embrace that skill? Are you using this superpower for good or evil? (Yes, a lot of questions to hit you with so
early in this posting)
out? Something that enhances your career
or personal life. A skill that helps you
and others. Do you even know what it is or do you not have the confidence to acknowledge
or embrace that skill? Are you using this superpower for good or evil? (Yes, a lot of questions to hit you with so
early in this posting)
I have two awesome kids.
Anyone that knows me, knows that my kids rule my life. They are the fuel that drives me to be a
better person. They are animated, but well
behaved. They take over and own every
room they walk into. Christal and I are
beyond blessed to have them in our lives. They are also great tax deductions, but saving
us money is certainly not their superpower.
Anyone that knows me, knows that my kids rule my life. They are the fuel that drives me to be a
better person. They are animated, but well
behaved. They take over and own every
room they walk into. Christal and I are
beyond blessed to have them in our lives. They are also great tax deductions, but saving
us money is certainly not their superpower.
When asking my kids about their superpowers, this is what I get
in response-
in response-
Erin: “I have
eagle eyes”
eagle eyes”
Sean: “I have Aquabats
power. I can shoot stuff with lasers and
I can run really fast”.
power. I can shoot stuff with lasers and
I can run really fast”.
Ok, Erin is almost 8 and her superpower is more realistic
and true. Although Sean can run pretty
fast, for an almost 5 year old, his Aquabat powers (his favorite TV show) and
being able to shoot with lasers isn’t exactly believable. Again, he’s 4. Getting him to aim his pee inside the toilet
should be the next superpower that he should focus on. Mastering this skill would be a good idea
before anyone lets him play with lasers.
Erin actually has eagle eyes. She
masters every word search she does and can find things we have lost. Her superpower is a skill she has used for
good in the past; especially when her brother drops or forgets his favorite
toys and someone has to find them after his 2.3 seconds of “searching
everywhere”.
and true. Although Sean can run pretty
fast, for an almost 5 year old, his Aquabat powers (his favorite TV show) and
being able to shoot with lasers isn’t exactly believable. Again, he’s 4. Getting him to aim his pee inside the toilet
should be the next superpower that he should focus on. Mastering this skill would be a good idea
before anyone lets him play with lasers.
Erin actually has eagle eyes. She
masters every word search she does and can find things we have lost. Her superpower is a skill she has used for
good in the past; especially when her brother drops or forgets his favorite
toys and someone has to find them after his 2.3 seconds of “searching
everywhere”.
I can talk to people. I’m a communicator. That’s my
superpower-Communication.
superpower-Communication.
Tonight, on my way home, I stopped off to pick up food for
dinner. While waiting for my takeout, I had
a beer at the bar. In less than 3
questions in 5 minutes, both bartenders pretty much unloaded their entire life
stories while I listened. By asking the
right questions and shutting up long enough for them to respond and to continue
to respond, I was able to learn a lot. Asking
the right questions is important, but actively listening is where you receive the
greatest takeaways. This is my superpower and I choose to use my powers for
good.
dinner. While waiting for my takeout, I had
a beer at the bar. In less than 3
questions in 5 minutes, both bartenders pretty much unloaded their entire life
stories while I listened. By asking the
right questions and shutting up long enough for them to respond and to continue
to respond, I was able to learn a lot. Asking
the right questions is important, but actively listening is where you receive the
greatest takeaways. This is my superpower and I choose to use my powers for
good.
I want to know your story.
I like stories. Life stories
interest me more than most things in this world. Others have more expensive hobbies in
life. I collect stories. I only follow podcast that tell stories about
the lives of others. I want to gain knowledge
through my personal experiences and the experiences of others. I pull from these stories and takeaways and
try to use them as reference points, warnings and lessons. The information I attain from conversations
is not used for leverage or “evil”. It
is used for education. I want to know
the measure of a person and what makes them tick. Why the do what they do, or rather, why they
are holding back from doing other things.
I’m not judging you or grading you or thinking of ways to “fix” you while
you speak. Instead, I am taking your
story in and investing in your experience.
Yes, I might contribute to the conversation by sharing my take or
opinion, but more often than not, my words are meant to dive deeper into the
conversation and possibly establish a healthier connection. Even with complete strangers. No, I don’t want to know about your awkward
digestive track issues (TMI), but I do want to know what motivates you.
I like stories. Life stories
interest me more than most things in this world. Others have more expensive hobbies in
life. I collect stories. I only follow podcast that tell stories about
the lives of others. I want to gain knowledge
through my personal experiences and the experiences of others. I pull from these stories and takeaways and
try to use them as reference points, warnings and lessons. The information I attain from conversations
is not used for leverage or “evil”. It
is used for education. I want to know
the measure of a person and what makes them tick. Why the do what they do, or rather, why they
are holding back from doing other things.
I’m not judging you or grading you or thinking of ways to “fix” you while
you speak. Instead, I am taking your
story in and investing in your experience.
Yes, I might contribute to the conversation by sharing my take or
opinion, but more often than not, my words are meant to dive deeper into the
conversation and possibly establish a healthier connection. Even with complete strangers. No, I don’t want to know about your awkward
digestive track issues (TMI), but I do want to know what motivates you.
Are you a user or an investor in the lives and futures of
others? Are you a hero or a villain? After
all our possessions or our items of value are gone, all we really have is our stories
and experiences. The knowledge you possess is your laser and x-ray vision.
others? Are you a hero or a villain? After
all our possessions or our items of value are gone, all we really have is our stories
and experiences. The knowledge you possess is your laser and x-ray vision.
Each of us have a unique superpower. Accept your ability and have the confidence
to share it with the world. By “putting
it out there”, it will grow. Becoming
aware of your gift may take time and you may have to work to build up the
confidence needed to share it with the world.
We all have things that we do that benefit us, but what gifts do you
possess that can change the world, or more realistically, help those immediately
around you? You may not have the answer
now in life, but be sensitive enough to realize it and embrace it once it
appears to you.
to share it with the world. By “putting
it out there”, it will grow. Becoming
aware of your gift may take time and you may have to work to build up the
confidence needed to share it with the world.
We all have things that we do that benefit us, but what gifts do you
possess that can change the world, or more realistically, help those immediately
around you? You may not have the answer
now in life, but be sensitive enough to realize it and embrace it once it
appears to you.
If you figure out how to fly like Superman, I have a 4 year
old that would love to meet you.
old that would love to meet you.
Sometimes your job can wear you out.
No kidding right?
The deadlines, stress, boss, whatever…It can suck the life
out of you and no amount of vacation can balance the anxiety. No matter how much you love what you do, it
just happens. Even if you work for
yourself; the stress is still there.
out of you and no amount of vacation can balance the anxiety. No matter how much you love what you do, it
just happens. Even if you work for
yourself; the stress is still there.
Then it happens. You
have a moment. The thing that reminds
you of why you do what you do. That
glimpse of satisfaction or success that swoops in, just in time, to remind us
why we take the beating each day. Like a
small ray of sun that passes through the clouds; giving us enough hope and
satisfaction to continue to endure.
Those small payoffs are the things that make it all worthwhile.
have a moment. The thing that reminds
you of why you do what you do. That
glimpse of satisfaction or success that swoops in, just in time, to remind us
why we take the beating each day. Like a
small ray of sun that passes through the clouds; giving us enough hope and
satisfaction to continue to endure.
Those small payoffs are the things that make it all worthwhile.
For me, it’s coaching.
Going to work each day, surrounded with talented people or folks that
“know it all”, it’s refreshing to get an opportunity to share my knowledge or
experience with someone who is looking to grow or understand something new. Above
all, I enjoy the passing along of ideas, experience and perspective. It’s certainly not an ego thing, but
reassurance that people still have a passion for growth and forward
momentum. I want to invest in the future
of my craft and in order to do that I need to make sure others, the future, are
equipped with some of the knowledge I have figured out along the way. Not my jaded perspective, but the honest take
on where things are and have been.
Going to work each day, surrounded with talented people or folks that
“know it all”, it’s refreshing to get an opportunity to share my knowledge or
experience with someone who is looking to grow or understand something new. Above
all, I enjoy the passing along of ideas, experience and perspective. It’s certainly not an ego thing, but
reassurance that people still have a passion for growth and forward
momentum. I want to invest in the future
of my craft and in order to do that I need to make sure others, the future, are
equipped with some of the knowledge I have figured out along the way. Not my jaded perspective, but the honest take
on where things are and have been.
I employ you to never pass up a coaching opportunity in
life. Just don’t do it out of ego. Do it
because you care about the advancement and momentum of others. Do it because you want to pass the baton or
allow others to not have to trip and stumble like you did. Do it because people passed on opportunities
to do it for you. One of the reasons I
started writing was because I wanted to pass things along to those that might
gain from my perspective and experience. Especially those who don’t know me or
perhaps those who are too afraid or too proud to ask questions. It feels good when thousands of people read
my blogs, but the true satisfaction comes from the things I can’t measure
through the analytical back walls of my blog or book sales. For me, it comes from knowing that others
might have been able to push through a wall because of something I wrote or
said.
life. Just don’t do it out of ego. Do it
because you care about the advancement and momentum of others. Do it because you want to pass the baton or
allow others to not have to trip and stumble like you did. Do it because people passed on opportunities
to do it for you. One of the reasons I
started writing was because I wanted to pass things along to those that might
gain from my perspective and experience. Especially those who don’t know me or
perhaps those who are too afraid or too proud to ask questions. It feels good when thousands of people read
my blogs, but the true satisfaction comes from the things I can’t measure
through the analytical back walls of my blog or book sales. For me, it comes from knowing that others
might have been able to push through a wall because of something I wrote or
said.
All we have in this world are our experiences and unique
perspective. It’s important that we
share those things with others. It can
be direct or even through a story that pulls from life experience. It doesn’t
matter what you use or how you use it to connect. All that matters is that you are sharing the
valuable information that you have to offer and not squandering it and holding
it captive. Knowledge and life lessons
do nothing for the world when you take them to the grave, so you might as well
unload them on the world while your heart is still beating.
perspective. It’s important that we
share those things with others. It can
be direct or even through a story that pulls from life experience. It doesn’t
matter what you use or how you use it to connect. All that matters is that you are sharing the
valuable information that you have to offer and not squandering it and holding
it captive. Knowledge and life lessons
do nothing for the world when you take them to the grave, so you might as well
unload them on the world while your heart is still beating.
Don’t just wait for the world to ask you for your opinion on
things. Start with asking others to
share their knowledge. No matter how
much of an expert we are, knowledge needs to be equally gained and gifted. There is a fine line between having people
connect the dots on their own and the phrase “let them figure it out
themselves”. You want people to
advance. You NEED others to get passed
the stumbling blocks that hindered you.
We cannot progress without this happening. I’m not saying we need to hand it over and
spoon feed knowledge to others. They do
need to experience things for themselves, but that doesn’t mean we have to sit
and watch them circle the drain because we have a sick desire for some level of
hazing. Manuals and history books are written
for a reason. They help the next group
progress. Your history is uniquely yours
and most people will never write a book, so we might as well share what we got.
things. Start with asking others to
share their knowledge. No matter how
much of an expert we are, knowledge needs to be equally gained and gifted. There is a fine line between having people
connect the dots on their own and the phrase “let them figure it out
themselves”. You want people to
advance. You NEED others to get passed
the stumbling blocks that hindered you.
We cannot progress without this happening. I’m not saying we need to hand it over and
spoon feed knowledge to others. They do
need to experience things for themselves, but that doesn’t mean we have to sit
and watch them circle the drain because we have a sick desire for some level of
hazing. Manuals and history books are written
for a reason. They help the next group
progress. Your history is uniquely yours
and most people will never write a book, so we might as well share what we got.